The book is about ready to launch!

I'm honestly really excited about this book. I think it's a book we need (but not before needing the gospel). We are continually walking further and further away from God. The world is getting darker the more we shun God out of our lives and society. And you don't have to look far to see it.

We as women are hiding in shame and embarassment and guilt from our sexual struggles. God made us sexual beings, it's a fact. Struggles are real but we need to remind ourselves we are NOT alone in the battles we face. Satan wants us to feel the guilt and shame we feel. He wants us to feel alone in the dark. He wants us to stay silent on these issues.

Here's what the authors have to say:

"The more we chase after God’s good design, the more the fog will lift. The more the confusion will clear up. The more we chase after our Savior, the more He will satisfy us in ways nothing on this earth ever could.

As you read through the pages of this book, here’s what you’ll discover:

• A Biblical understanding of your sexuality,

• God’s good design for love, passion, and sex,

• Why your longings for intimacy are actually a good thing,

• How to conquer lust in your life,

• What God’s word teaches about porn, masturbation, and erotica,

• How to deal with secret sexual struggles,

• Practical help for embracing a life of purity,

• How to find ultimate satisfaction in Jesus,

• And much more.

Regardless of where you’ve been or what you’re facing today, we're excited you’re reading this book. We pray that the truths of God’s word transform your life like they have ours." -Kristen and Bethany

The deal: Pre-order by April 29th ( ONLY DAYS LEFT) and you will receive the following freebies. Check it out! And stay tuned. I have begun to read this book and will have a review in a few days. Do yourself a favour and click on the link and to see what I'm on about. We need each other to bring these issues to the light and pour God's truth on them so we do not feel guilt or shame anymore!

https://www.girldefined.com/sex-purity-and-longings

Do you think Modesty is Beautiful?

I originally wrote this post last year for my old church, The Point Community Church. I am now sharing this to hopefully and prayerfully encourage you.

Modesty. A topic where the finger gets pointed but responsibility isn’t owned. A topic which society pushes to the sidelines. A word that the Bible pictures as beautiful, but that evokes ‘ugliness’ today.  As society becomes more sexualised, ‘modest’ clothing becomes more associated with ‘boring' and ‘old-fashioned’. 

Growing up, I had a very limited understanding of what modesty meant and looked like in day-to-day life. I did not learn the value of my body and the power of my clothing. I often walked out of the house without a care about what I was wearing.  I was far more focused on who I could impress that day. I became very obsessed with my self-image and did not treat my body with any respect.  I had little understanding of how precious my body is.

Now in my mid-twenties, I am seeking to understand how modesty fits into my life.  Part of my journey has been to study God’s Word and various Christian authors’ views on the topic. I have been challenged to figure out where I stand.  I have discovered that being modest in today’s ‘dress to impress’ society requires wisdom AND the fear of God over fear of man.

Modesty stems from the heart. How we treat our bodies including how we choose our clothing reveals what is going on inside our hearts. What goes through your mind as you look at your wardrobe in the morning? 

I often struggle with an inner battle when I dress for outings.  Too often I am focussed on wanting to look beautiful and to be accepted.  Earlier this week I tried on a dress I thought was rather cute.  I had to fight the temptation to keep the dress because in my heart I knew it would not be a wise choice to wear it.  It was not an easy fight.

I am far from perfect in this area of my life, but what I am realising is:

Modesty is not boring.

Modesty is not old-fashioned.

Modesty is not ugly.

Modesty is beautiful.

Here is what the Bible has to say:

‘Do not let your adorning be external- the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewellery, or the clothing you wear- but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.’ 1 Peter 3:3-5 (ESV)

This is a well-known verse among many Christians with the reminder that beauty really is in the heart of people. What is that draws you to your friends? Is it the clothes they wear, or how beautiful you think they are on the outside? Or is it what flows out from their hearts?

‘Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire.’ 1 Timothy 2:9 (ESV)

In this verse, Paul is not suggesting we should not style our hair or never wear jewellery, or that we should wear sacks to cover ourselves up. Paul is suggesting we shift from focusing so much on our outward selves, and instead look at what is going on in our hearts and character.

Modesty is beautiful. In True Beauty, authors Carolyn Mahaney and Nicole Whitacre describe modesty as ‘a reverence for God and respect for others in our dress.’ A modest woman is a beautiful woman as she values her body created by God, and adopts an attitude that seeks to serve and love Christ in her dress.

Nancy Leigh DeMoss shares her thoughts on modesty in her book Lies Women Believe and the Truth that Sets Them Free:

‘The outward appearance of the Christian woman is to reflect a heart that is simple, pure, and well-ordered; her clothing and hairstyles should not be distracting or draw attention to herself by being extravagant, extreme or indecent. In this way, she reflects the truth condition of her heart and her relationship with the Lord, and she makes the Gospel attractive to the world.’ (Page 81)

I would like to encourage and challenge you to think about where God sits in your life as you think about what you wear.   One place to start is to ask yourself some questions:

• ·         Am I honouring to God by wearing this?
• ·         What does this outfit reveal about my heart?
• ·         Am I wanting to impress someone, or do I desire to imitate God?

Society believes (and some Christians believe) there is no place for modesty today. Will you prayerfully consider what you put on inside and outside of your body?   Will you seek God on how you can see modesty is beautiful?

Fruit of the Spirit: Choosing Joy

'Count it all joy, my [sisters], when you meet trials of various kinds' James 1:2

Say what?!

Have you ever gone through a trial of some kind and a friend has told you to 'count it all'? If they did, you would think they were mad. The presence of joy in the middle of suffering sounds like a mismatch.